Let’s not forget the exhaustion factor — the effort I put in to be kind, gracious, and open-minded, even when we both know before we even speak if there’s any reason to continue. I try remain open-minded. I try not to show my disappointment. I chide myself, tell myself to give the person the benefit of the doubt. But by the end of the hour (and it’s always an hour, even when it’s just coffee), I’m exhausted. We exch…