A tale of hope

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*Disclaimer* The storyline is set in Nigeria, and so has elements of the pidgin English slang.

It was 3:30 pm and Lukeman was drenched in his own sweat. The damn sun hadn’t set yet? He hissed as he scanned the traffic for potential customers. Being a street hawker for over two years on Eko bridge had taught him a thing or two about who and who would make potential buyers.

“Heiss, pure water man”.

Lukeman didn’t stop to see if he was the one the customer was calling, he ran towards the car frantically with his blue basin of water…


Single and ready to mingle!!

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It used to be all so simple.

Or maybe we say that because we look at the past with rose-colored glasses.

But still, it used to be simple.

There was once a time when life was linear, and we found comfort in its routines and the ease of transitions.

We had a routine set up for us by our parents, schools, religious institutions, and the wider society. We moved from one grade to another, came back from school at the same time every day. Had a bedtime routine. …


The Nsibidi writings of the Ekoi people

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The ancient Egyptians get a lot of publicity for their power and influence on the ancient world, and rightly so. At a point, they were the greatest civilization on Earth. Most notably, they were the first recorded humans in Africa to have a system of writing.

They are famous for their great pyramids, great pharaohs and even have chapters in the Bible dedicated to them and their run-ins with the Israelites. However, while celebrating them, we have overlooked the other sub-Saharan African tribes with a writing system. Many people are not even aware that it exists.

Before the amalgamation of…


A reminder not to lose yourself in a relationship

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We have made many strides as a society when it comes to feminism, holding men more accountable and reorientation of how both sexes should relate with one another. However, it seems some things are yet to change.

From a candid standpoint, women still bend themselves backward for their partners for the most part. Not only does this pressure come from within us, but it is also encouraged by the wider society.

Women are told that they are responsible for keeping their men. We are told to endure, to do everything possible…


Have we become too sensitive?

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I remember watching an episode of The Power puff girls, as a child, where Blossom, Bubbles, and Buttercup broke into the lair of Mojo Jojo, and in it lay a septic tank with poisonous green gas oozing out. Written on the tank’s body was the warning in black — Toxic, Followed by a big ‘X’ sign and a skull head for more emphasis. Those were good times — innocent times.

Toxic used to be a word that people associated with dangerous substances like wastes and gas fumes, but these days it has taken on a whole new meaning.

Owing to…


Learn from my worst relationship!

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Love is arguably the most beautiful emotion felt by humans around the world. It's an emotion that heals, reconciles, excites, births new relationships, and creates hope for the future — but in my case, it almost destroyed me.

Up until two years ago, I had been in relationships but nothing quite like this. No one is perfect, and some of my exes missed the mark in significant ways, but this guy, my ex, took the cake.

How can someone who presented the picture of the perfect man turn out to be the monster I came to know? What was the…


If it's meant to be it will be

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I grew up on Disney fairy tales. You know, the ones where the princess faces many obstacles only to have her prince come and save her with a true loves first kiss? This fascinated me as a kid.

There seemed to be a pattern with these movies Snow-white was singing into her wishing well while doing her chores when her future prince just happened to pass by. Cinderella was a poor housemaid who got fortunate enough to have a fairy godmother transform her into the ball’s star — that got the prince’s attention. …


Why be a good girl when bad girls have all the fun?

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Every Nigerian lady knows what it was like growing up. From the moment we hit puberty, we become wives in training. And not just any wife, but a good wife. At least for me from the age of 13, my mum would call me into the kitchen to watch her cook, assist her in chopping, peeling, going to the market, budgeting, etc.

She would go into great detail on how to differentiate one vegetable from the other, what spice was for what, and how to properly turn ‘Eba’ to give it the right consistency.

A good wife should know how…


The foundation of how you see yourself starts with you.

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As a young girl in my teens, I didn’t experience the full weight of rejection. Sure enough, I had my fair share of teenage issues, insecurities, and struggles to fit in. But I didn’t have anyone tell me no on the basis that I wasn’t what they were looking for.

Maybe my parents shielded me, or I was just fortunate. But when I became an adult and started to put myself out there — for jobs, school, relationships, etc, I felt the full weight of what it means to be rejected.

It just hits you all of a sudden. We…


Dating shouldn't be this hard.

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Two years ago, after coming out of a 2-year long-term relationship, I decided to venture into the world of dating apps.

For context, I spent most of my formative years in Nigeria. My country of birth and origin.

In 2016 I relocated to England to pursue a new life of education and job opportunities. I came to the country booed up, but a year later, it ended.

I took a year off to self-reflect and to be ready for the next phase of my life. Which, by the way, I recommend to anyone coming out…

Adaeze Sherleen Ilo

Adaeze is a young lady who recently embraced her writing super powers. Now she writes to make up for lost time.

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