Knowing these three things could save you from financial ruin

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We live in times where millennials have a lower chance of owning property than previous generations. Various statistics show that 71% of millennials fear they may never be able to own their own home, with young people from the ages 24–34 having an 8 percent lower chance of owning a home than their predecessors.

But this hasn't stopped us — speaking as a millennial myself, from saving up and buying homes, despite the mounting student debts and median wages, which haven't increased in the last 15 years, compared to every other thing that has gone up in price within that…

Black women deserve to be loved too

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What is it with black women, and why won’t people leave us alone? Not only do we have to face the unfavorable statistics that tell us we are the least likely to get married out of other racial groups, the least desirable of all women in the dating pool, but there is also the fact that black women outnumber black men as a result of mass incarceration. A 2015 study showed that 54% of black children grow up in single-parent homes compared to 22% of caucasian kids due to unemployment and incarceration of black men. …

The honeymoon phase won’t last forever.

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Disney and its slew of romantic cartoons did a number on us growing up, especially women — ‘And they all lived happily ever after.’ Who could forget that one? And Hollywood with its stereotypes and romanticization of toxic relationships — cue Mr. Big and Carrey Bradshaw in Sex and the city.

Add Scenes from raunchy music videos of rappers and musicians that subconsciously told us that women are for the sexual gratification of men also played a role in our current predicament.

Pop culture has a huge influence on how we view the world. It has the power to shape…

And why we should be more forgiving of them.

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I grew up hearing the popular phrase, ‘Never say never,’ and I was certain there were some things I would never do.

There was a time I was sure I would never smoke, never compromise, never let a man walk all over me — But there I was in certain seasons of my life, doing the exact things I vowed never to do.

Fast forward to the present day, my consciousness of what it means to be a woman and all the ills that attend us in this world is sharper than ever. …

3 things that would have happened if the suffragette movement lost

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Yesssss!! Yess! I said it. I knew he was going to win, oh God, yes!!”

Bena rolled her eyes at the noise her brother and dad were making in the living room. Didn't they know they were distracting her?

She tried to return her focus to the yams she was peeling, but the beads of sweat rolling down her forehead, spilling down into her eyes, were a sign of something more troubling.

Hey B! Joe won, he won. I told you, eh? Woohoo!! Anyway, what's for dinner?” Uwa said as he made his way into the kitchen, hovering over his…

A tale of hope

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*Disclaimer* The storyline is set in Nigeria, and so has elements of the pidgin English slang.

It was 3:30 pm and Lukeman was drenched in his own sweat. The damn sun hadn’t set yet? He hissed as he scanned the traffic for potential customers. Being a street hawker for over two years on Eko bridge had taught him a thing or two about who and who would make potential buyers.

“Heiss, pure water man”.

Lukeman didn’t stop to see if he was the one the customer was calling, he ran towards the car frantically with his blue basin of water…

Single and ready to mingle!!

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It used to be all so simple.

Or maybe we say that because we look at the past with rose-colored glasses.

But still, it used to be simple.

There was once a time when life was linear, and we found comfort in its routines and the ease of transitions.

We had a routine set up for us by our parents, schools, religious institutions, and the wider society. We moved from one grade to another, came back from school at the same time every day. Had a bedtime routine. …

The Nsibidi writings of the Ekoi people

By Maude Wahlman — Maude Wahlman. Signs and Symbols: African Images in African American Quilts, Public Domain,

The ancient Egyptians get a lot of publicity for their power and influence on the ancient world, and rightly so. At a point, they were the greatest civilization on Earth. Most notably, they were the first recorded humans in Africa to have a system of writing.

They are famous for their great pyramids, great pharaohs and even have chapters in the Bible dedicated to them and their run-ins with the Israelites. However, while celebrating them, we have overlooked the other sub-Saharan African tribes with a writing system. Many people are not even aware that it exists.

Before the amalgamation of…

A reminder not to lose yourself in a relationship

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We have made many strides as a society when it comes to feminism, holding men more accountable and reorientation of how both sexes should relate with one another. However, it seems some things are yet to change.

From a candid standpoint, women still bend themselves backward for their partners for the most part. Not only does this pressure come from within us, but it is also encouraged by the wider society.

Women are told that they are responsible for keeping their men. We are told to endure, to do everything possible…

Have we become too sensitive?

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I remember watching an episode of The Power puff girls, as a child, where Blossom, Bubbles, and Buttercup broke into the lair of Mojo Jojo, and in it lay a septic tank with poisonous green gas oozing out. Written on the tank’s body was the warning in black — Toxic, Followed by a big ‘X’ sign and a skull head for more emphasis. Those were good times — innocent times.

Toxic used to be a word that people associated with dangerous substances like wastes and gas fumes, but these days it has taken on a whole new meaning.

Owing to…

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Adaeze is a young lady who recently embraced her writing super powers. Now she writes to make up for lost time.

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